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The First Three Stages of Life

Serving the Right, True, and Free Development of Children and Young People and Completing the Human Work of Individuation, Socialization, and Integration of Adults

About This Book

Part One
Introducing Avatar Adi Da's Instructions
on Conscious Childrearing

Chapter 1
Giving Children the Cause and Freedom to Be Happy

The Great Means: Helping Children Embrace the Devotional Relationship to Avatar Adi Da

Transcending "Narcissus" at the Pond

Locating Happiness:
What Avatar Adi Da Means When He Says Children Can
"Invoke Me, Feel Me, Breathe Me, and Serve Me"

Giving Children an Authentic Relationship
to the Living Divine Reality Itself

Going Beyond Santa Claus and the Hulk

Part Two
"Growth and Out-Growing"
in the First Three Stages of Life

Chapter 2
The Seven Stages of Life

The "Bright" Force Inherent in Avatar Adi Da's Seventh Stage Revelation:
The Principle of Attraction

The First Three Stages of Life

Right Life and the Advantages of
Stage-Appropriate Practice for Children

Chapter 3
The First Three Stages of Life — An Overview

Early-Life Education, or, My Seventh Stage Way of
Schooling In The First Three Stages of Life
— Essay and Commentary by Avatar Adi Da Samraj

The Calling to Serve the "Right, True, and Free Development" of Children and Young People in the First Three Stages of Life

On Adult Re-Adaptation: Regeneration of the "Free and Growing Movement" toward Completion of the First Three Stages of Life

Chapter 4
The First Stage of Life — The Process of Individuation

Even the Youngest of Children Need a Sacred Way of Life

Overview of the Developmental Tasks of the First Stage of Life

The Four Phases of the First Stage of Life — Newborns, Infants, Toddlers, and Children above Three

How to Serve First Stagers: Basic Practical Guidelines

Signs of Maturity in the First Stage of Life

For Adults: Growing Beyond the Dependency Connection

Chapter 5
The Second Stage of Life — The Process of Socialization

Overview of the Developmental Tasks of the Second Stage of Life

How to Serve Second Stagers: Basic Practical Guidelines

Signs of Maturity in the Second Stage of Life

For Adults: Resolution of the Relational and Social Character

Chapter 6
The Third Stage of Life — Integration of the Human Personality

Overview of the Developmental Tasks of the Third Stage of Life

How to Serve Third Stagers: Basic Practical Guidelines

Signs of Maturity in the Third Stage of Life

For Adults: Outgrowing the Typical "Indefinitely Prolonged Adolescence"

Part Three
"Radical" Devotion:
Devotional Practices for Children and Young People

Chapter 7
Whole Bodily Devotional Turning to Avatar Adi Da

Mind, Feeling, Breath, and Body: Turning the Four Faculties to Avatar Adi Da

"It Is All One Feeling": Summarizing the Practice of Whole Bodily Devotional Turning to Avatar Adi Da

Chapter 8
Feeling the Mystery: The Practice of Meditation
in the First Three Stages of Life

Sitting Down "Quiet and Not Busy Every Day for a Little or a Big While"

Meditation and the Two Ways of Expressing Devotion to Avatar Adi Da

Four More Admonitions That Inform Meditation

Feeling the Mystery "Really Quiet and Strong"

Adapting to Meditation in Each of the First Three Stages of Life

Practical Guidelines for Children's Meditation

Meditation Is a Gift

Chapter 9
Real-God-Sensitive Prayer
and Other Forms of Worship for Children

Devotional Gestures

The Ceremony of Giving and Receiving Gifts

Prayers for Invoking Avatar Adi Da's Blessing

Welcoming Avatar Adi Da into Their Hearts Each Day: Sacred Occasions for Children

Recitations of Avatar Adi Da's Reality-Teaching

Devotional Chanting

The Devotional Prayer of Changes

The Laying on of Hands

Receiving Avatar Adi Da's Darshan

Likhita Japa

The "Eyes and Ears" Exercise

Guided Meditation

Wandering

Chapter 10
The Principle of Retreat

Part Four
Right Life: Practical Life-Discipline
for Children and Young People

Chapter 11
Feeling-Breathing:
"Conductivity" Practice for Children and Young People

The Three-Part "Conductivity" Exercise in the First Three Stages of Life

When and Why: Engaging the Three-Part "Conductivity" Practice

Notes on "Conscious Exercise" for Children

Chapter 12
Conscious Food-Taking

Diet in the First Three Stages of Life

Foods to Choose and Foods to Avoid

Eating and Meals

Chapter 13
Service: A Fundamental Life-Principle

Service to Avatar Adi Da

Turning the Faculty of the Body to Avatar Adi Da

Service to Others

Service as Cooperation and Participation in Sacred Culture

Service in the First Three Stages of Life

Part Five
"Discipline Is an Act of Love":
Intimacy as the Foundation for Conscious Childrearing

Chapter 14
The Pleasure of Calm Is Fundamental

Chapter 15
Intimacy Is the Healing Principle

Chapter 16
The Dynamic Play of Nurture and Challenge

The "Mother-Force" and the "Father-Force"

Using the "Two-Man Con"

Consciously Introducing the "Father-Force"

Chapter 17
Freedom and Responsibility Go Hand in Hand

Part Six
Learning to Live as "I Love You":
Adapting to the Principle of
Transcending egoity in Relationships

Chapter 18
Helping Children Go Beyond the "Oedipal" Sufferings of Childhood

The Greek Myth of Oedipus

Observing the Unwritten Script: In Adults and in Children

Replacing the "Oedipal" Drama with ego-Transcending Love

Discovering the "Treasure Locked Up in the Family Attic":
For Third Stagers and Adults

"The Secrets of How to Change"

Chapter 19
"Remember to Love": Right Moral Development

The Moral Challenge in Each of the First Three Stages of Life

Transcending the ego's Complaint: "You Don't Love Me!"

The Wound of Love Is Not a Reason to Punish Others

Never Be Weak in Love: The True Source of Sympathy and Compassion

Do Love, Say Love, Give Love, Be Love: Don't Wait!

Practical Guidelines for Serving First, Second, and Third Stagers

Chapter 20
A Reality-Based Understanding of
Human Emotional-Sexual Development

The Etheric Dimension and Emotional-Sexual Development

Open, Non-Sex-Negative Communications
with Children and Young People

Gender Roles and Relations between the Sexes
in the First Three Stages of Life

Emotional-Sexual Development in the Third Stage of Life

Summary of Emotional-Sexual Development
in the First Three Stages of Life

Epilogue
Avatar Adi Da's Call to Young People:
"Take Your Practice Seriously"

Appendices

About Avatar Adi Da's Schema of the Seven Stages of Life

Passages Addressed Directly to Children and Young People

Passages Relevant to Adult Re-Adaptation

Forms of Name-Invocation of Avatar Adi Da Samraj

Glossary

The Universal Offering of His Divine Presence, Avatar Adi Da Samraj
by Ruchiradama Quandra Sukhapur Rani Naitauba

About the Vision of Mulund Institute

Index

Next: An Instructional Story Rendered for Children:
The "I-gotta-getties" and the "I-need-it-nowies"

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Serving the Right, True, and Free Development of Children and Young People and Completing the Human Work of Individuation, Socialization, and Integration of Adults

If you are involved with children, you will undoubtedly find directly usable Wisdom in every section of this book.

You may also observe that the passages concentrating on the practical issues of conscious childrearing are addressed to you, the responsible adult. Other passages, interspersed throughout, are addressed directly to children themselves.

Through this book, children (and people of all ages) can learn:
  • A healthy sense of autonomy and physical mastery
  • Sensitivity to the energies of nature, self, and others
  • Discriminative intelligence and a will to go beyond limitations
  • To feel the Great Mystery of existence through meditation and devotional practice
  • Intimacy as the healing principle
  • To go beyond "Oedipal" sufferings, or unconscious emotional patterning in response to their parents and others
  • To live as "I love you" and become sensitive to the dramatization of "you do not love me"
  • Discipline, as an act of love
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